There are so many roads traveled and paths taken to find Mr. or Mrs. Right, but all too often we search aimlessly because we begin our search without a plan or blueprint of what the finished product should look like.

Tall, dark and handsome or the hourglass figure doesn’t provide a firm foundation for a relationship. You may know of someone or been the victim of purchasing a beautiful car that turned out to be the biggest lemon ever. That beautiful car turns into your biggest nightmare ever. By the time it’s all said and done you never want to see it again. If a car can put you through that much pain and misery, how much more so can a person that turns out to be a lemon?

Most people will spend more time with an architect designing a dream home then they will spend trying to figure out what qualities they want in the person they plan to spend the rest of their life with. They will spend months, maybe years deciding what it is they want in the home and no time deciding what they want in a spouse. As crazy as it seems, this happens more often than not.

With that being said, have you begun creating your relationship blueprint? If you haven’t, you need to start now. If you have already designed your blueprint it wouldn't hurt to look over the details again to make sure you have all your priorities in order.

So, before the “I DO” where does one begin? I suggest that you begin with you. Ask yourself what qualities do I bring to a relationship? This is an important question because if you want a person of value and character, you need to be of greater or equal value. The man or woman you want to attract should have the wisdom to see your qualities and recognize your value.

So let’s get back to the question, what qualities of true value do you possess? I would advise that you take paper and pen and write down what those qualities are. You may find out that you have more value than you thought. It’s so important that we get to know ourselves. You might find out that you possess a hidden treasure within yourself, or you might find out that you are a diamond in the rough.  Some of the most precious and finest diamonds were at one point a diamond in the rough. If you have been referred to as a diamond in the rough, don’t take this as an insult take it as a compliment, it lets you know that there is a treasure inside of you. 

You will have to create a plan to develop your untapped potential and qualities. With some nurturing and refining the true you will begin to shine through.  This is why our blueprint starts with ourselves. We've got to know ourselves and what we possess before we can identify it in someone else.